“How are things?”
“Busy”. – Everyone is in such a rush these days. It’s a badge of honour.
While technology has allowed us to be so much more “productive”, I often feel like I am driving a F1 Racing Car at 200mph. The car can handle it, the problem is that I have the same reactions as when I was in my 1986 Golf going 60mph. The technology may allow me to go quicker, but my reaction time is still the same, my ability to process information is the same. I have to utilise all my focus and attention to only just about keep up, it is stressful and tiring. Studies have shown that we actually have more free time than ever (no hours of churning butter for me), but it sure as hell doesn’t feel like that can be true.
So we develop short cuts, pattern recognition, heuristics (rules of thumb) and hidden scripts. I grew up in a strange “liberal” conservative society and as part of my transformation journey, I spend a lot of time challenging what I believe to be true – the hidden scripts, the voice in the back of my head. Growing up where I did (or anywhere) there is no way I could have escaped Racism, Homophobia, Elitism, Gender Inequality, it is imprinted in the history of the society. So now I can either pretend that all is well or I can recognise the effect on me and question my ingrained beliefs, my thoughts. It has left me on what I believe is the road to being a better person, but there is a lot of work to do.
As a part of this, each morning I start the day with a combination of activities including meditation, visualisation, gratitude, grounding and my mantra (as well as a stretch and a coffee) . It doesn’t make every day a “good” day, but more are better. My mindset is ready.
I’ve had a lot of encouraging feedback about my transformation (keep it coming, it inspires me, it motivates me). In that post, I focused on the physical, because that is the easiest to associate, but my journey is not taking me along the easiest route.
To help others go on a voyage of discovery, I have created and collected a series of activities packaged as “Being You: 30 Ways in 30 Days”. It is designed for people who are busy, but have (finally) come to the realisation that they need to spend more time prioritising themselves. This is not selfish, it makes them a better person, which in turn makes them a better employee, a better entrepreneur, a better mother, a better father, a better husband, a better wife…
Better people make better…fill in the blank.
So I challenge you to commit yourself to dedicating a few minutes to yourself for 30 days, in 30 ways, exploring what it is to be you. The beauty of the activities is their simplicity.
I don’t want to spoil, the daily surprise, but to give you some idea what you’d be signing up for:
Day 4 – Take time to notice the strangers around you. Perhaps from your porch, on your commute. Think about what their stories are, use your imagination. Where they are going? Are they happy? Think about what challenges they may be facing?
Day 11 – Do something silly and fun today. Have a milkshake, wear something outrageous, dance or run like you are a child, who doesn’t care who is watching.
Day 22 – Give a small gift to someone who is under-appreciated, perhaps make them a cup of tea. Also remember the last time you thanked yourself for being you, can you even remember? – Thank yourself now.
Sign up below:
If the inclination takes you, please share this with someone who you think could benefit. I’m envisagin people who always put others before themselves, it could be most impactful for them.
- Meditation – See our Recommended page for various resources
- Lazy: A Manifesto – A reminder about, so many things. Listen to it every few months.
- Part of my morning routine:
- Meditation – Breath focus, body scan, breath, visualisation (3 or 5 years, 1 year or 6 months, 1 month, today)
- Mobility – Waking up like an animal
- 5 Minute Journal – Start and end the day in the right way.
- Coffee – I get Pact Coffee delivered. A luxury I value.
- Affirmation Mantra (out loud and with conviction)